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Thoughts on a Sunday morning

Five thoughts from the week ending June 30th, 2012

1. Age is nothing to mess around with:  When you are in your teens and twenties it seems like an eternity to old age. Then you hit 40, and start thinking “Wow! That was fast”. Then the next day you’re 50 and it’s “Holy crap!” I would say that I’m on the downhill run to 60, but its more like I’m cliff diving towards it!

2. Your relationship with God is more important than your relationship with the church: I love going to church, serving there, and worshiping God. It would be perfect except for one thing; There are people in it. Probably 95% of the people who attend a church don’t now, nor have they ever served behind the scenes. And it’s probably best they don’t. Despite popular belief, church work is hard. There are, after all, human beings leading it. Serving in a leadership role can leave you feeling partially empty in your spiritual walk. You have to be strong enough to fill in the gaps yourself with different small groups and reading the bible daily.

3. Do what makes you happy: We spend so much of our lives trying to please others, or to be what we think everyone expects us to be. As long as it’s not harmful to you or others mentally, physically, or spiritually go for it. There is no point in being miserable your whole life in the pursuit of making everyone else happy.

4. Love your parents: One of the saddest things that has evolved in the last 40 years is the lack of respect, manners, and dignity among our young people for their parents and/or elders. Society has taught them that it’s all about them and what they want verses being thankful and respectful for those who have provided and cared for them. This is WRONG! I constantly see young teens posting inappropriate comments about their parents on social networks and it just burns me up! Being a parent is a full-time job with no retirement. It is many times thankless when dealing with the behaviors of these kids. If our youth truly want respect they have to learn to give it first.

5. You always have something to learn: When I was 25 years old I thought I knew everything there was to know about life. I wasn’t even close. If you approach every day with a “Nobody is going to tell me what to do attitude”, you are just going to make your life that much less enjoyable. Be open to learning new things. Look for ways to improve yourself. Don’t go through life completely uneducated in the way things work just for spite. What you learn in school is ok. But if I had to depend on just what I learned in high school 35 years ago, I would be out on the street today. Things change, processes change, society changes. You will enjoy life in a much deeper way if you are open to learn.




Liberty Mutual Releases First-Ever Comprehensive Survey of Online Behaviors and Responsibility

Are you into Social Networking?  This was forwarded to me by my wife who works for Liberty Mutual. I found it very interesting. Check it out!

Liberty Mutual Releases First-Ever Comprehensive Survey of Online Behaviors and Responsibility

March 03, 2010
Keywords: Personal Responsibility,Responsibility

Survey Shows Men Embrace and Use Social Media Much More Often Than Women

BOSTON (March 2, 2010) A national survey released today by Liberty Mutual’s Responsibility Project sheds light on what individuals deem responsible social media use in the workplace, in relationships, at school and as it relates to parenting. The survey is the first of its kind, studying personal online behaviors and responsibility. A key finding revealed that men are generally more accepting of social media activities and use social networking sites more than women.

The Liberty Mutual “Social Media and Personal Responsibility Survey” uncovered that men are more lenient than women when it comes to Facebook in particular, and they tend to be more actively involved in social media across the board. Key findings on how differently men and women view social networking sites include:

  • Forty percent of men consider things like “friending” a boss or co-worker on Facebook “responsible”, while on 29 percent of women believe the same.
  • Men are more likely to think it’s acceptable for a CEO to “Tweet” about their company (51 percent of men vs. 37 percent of women).
  • Twenty-five percent of men find it responsible to tag a friend in a Facebook photo without them seeing it first, while only 19 percent of women find it responsible.
  • Men (57 percent) are more likely than women (50 percent) to have more than one social networking account.
  • With the exception of Facebook, men are generally more likely than women to use other social media accounts at least a few times per week, particularly Twitter.
    MySpace : 35 percent of men vs. 26 percent of women, LinkedIn : 25 percent of men vs. 16 percent of women, and Twitter: 53 percent of men vs. 38 percent of women.
  • Dads are more likely than moms to have a MySpace account or a Twitter account, 43 percent vs. 29 percent and 50 percent vs. 32 percent, respectively.

Liberty Mutual conducted the Social Media and Personal Responsibility Survey to initiate a dialogue about behaviors online. The survey is part of Liberty Mutual’s Responsibility Project, an online community that uses entertaining content, including short films, blogs, advertising and television programming, as catalysts for examining the decisions that confront people trying to “do the right thing.”

“Liberty Mutual created the Responsibility Project to initiate organic discussions about personal responsibility and what it means to each individual,” said Paul Alexander, senior vice president, communications, Liberty Mutual Group. “As social media continues to permeate our society, there are many situations in which people just don’t know the right way to act online. A lot of people are figuring it out. This survey taps into the opinions and mindset of American adults who are active online, particularly when it comes to work, education, relationships and parenting.”

The survey also shed light on social media users’ opinions of what is considered responsible and irresponsible when it comes to online behavior. In particular, Liberty Mutual questioned respondents about social media in the workplace, in a relationship, during school and parenting. Key insights from the survey include:

1. In the Workplace: Facebook and blogs are considered irresponsible but checking personal email is viewed as acceptable. An overwhelming 73 percent of people think it’s unacceptable to update a Facebook page or read a blog unrelated to work while at work. However, 66 percent believe checking personal email is acceptable at work. When asked to identify the most unacceptable online activity at work, 82 percent said uploading a personal photo to a social media profile.

2. Relationship Etiquette: Post break-up; it is viewed as irresponsible by most (54 percent) to “friend” an ex’s family member on Facebook. However, 60 percent of respondents believe “un-friending” an ex is completely responsible and 51 percent are okay with “un-friending” an ex’s family or friends.

3. Classroom Controversy: Social media users are split on whether or not it’s responsible for social media and schools to mix.Forty-six percent of respondents believe it’s inappropriate for a teacher to have a public social media profile, while 43 percent believe it’s appropriate. When it comes to disciplining a child for inappropriate behavior that occurs out of school and that is broadcast online, 77 percent think it is unacceptable to punish that student at the school. The majority of social media users (81 percent) think it is irresponsible for teachers to “friend” current students (ages 5-18) on Facebook.

4. Parents Speak Out: Most parents who allow their child(ren) to use social media say they monitor their child’s social media activity until 18 years of age (72 percent). Social media has become a way for parents to interact with their children; 69 percent of parents are “friends” with their child(ren) online. In addition, those parents who monitor their child’s account are more likely to be “friends” with their child online – 82 percent compared to only 35 percent of parents who do not monitor their child’s account.

Other Notable Survey Findings

Despite common misperceptions, grandparents are active online and use social media. The Social Media and Personal Responsibility Survey asked 100 grandparents across the country how they currently use social media. Interestingly, 93 percent of grandparents said they use Facebook to connect with friends, while 89 percent use it to connect with family.

Staying in touch with friends is by far the most common reason for social media users to use their accounts. Ninety-five percent of Facebook users say they use it to stay in touch with friends, while 81 percent of MySpace users connect with friends on that network, 55 percent of Twitter users use it to connect with friends and 52 percent of LinkedIn users connect with friends on that network.

Pets and social media don’t mix according to the survey. Seventy-two percent of social media users view this negatively, saying it is “egotistical,” a “waste of time,” “absurd” or “inappropriate” to develop a social media profile for a pet.

Individuals are encouraged to join the conversation and voice their opinion about social media by visiting The Responsibility Project Web site and online community at .

About the Survey

The “Social Media and Personal Responsibility Survey” was fielded for Liberty Mutual and The Responsibility Project between January 12-15, 2010, reaching 1,000 adults nationwide. Oversamples of 100 additional 18-24 year old social media users and 100 additional grandparents who are social media users were also reached. The base sample has a margin of error of +/- 3.1 percent at the 95 percent confidence level.

About The Responsibility Project

The Responsibility Project , created by Liberty Mutual, is an organic evolution of the company’s advertising campaign that has showcased personal acts of responsibility and daily examples of ordinary people making the decision to do considerate things for strangers. These ads featured the tagline, “Responsibility. What’s your policy?” Through The Responsibility Project, Liberty Mutual is using entertaining content, including independently produced short films, blogs, articles, advertising and television programming, as catalysts for examining the decisions that confront people trying to “do the right thing.”

The Responsibility Project’s online community launched in the beginning of 2008, and to date there have been more than six million unique visitors to the site. Individuals can participate in online conversations about personal responsibility and watch and discuss live-action and animated short films at The Responsibility Project Web site and online community at

Short Thoughts On 2009

  • Society got too busy keeping the world up to date with each and every movement of their day via Social Networking Sites. I am guilty as charged.
  • Tiger Woods is human.
  • Michael Jackson was a great artist.
  • Too many people get to express their opinions on cable news networks.
  • Less news is being reported and more sensationalism is being covered.
  • The Tampa Bay Rays are no longer the doormat of MLB.
  • The Tampa Bay Buccaneers have become a questionably managed NFL franchise.
  • God has been removed from the majority of workplaces in America.
  • Terrorism is alive and well. I’ve had explosions in my underwear, but never from chemicals and gunpowder.
  • Church is a good place to “start” learning about God.
  • We are all Worshipers of something.
  • Seatbelts and airbags save lives.
  • You can never have too much insurance.
  • It’s hard to find the right kind of cheese to make queso dip with.
  • LED Christmas Lights just aren’t the same as the old-fashioned ones.
  • Andy Rooney looks like a puppet when he talks.
  • Some people love to complain about everything.
  • Smoked Turkey is worth the time.
  • Grandchildren are worth living for.
  • There is no job more important than your family.
  • More to come………….

“The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly” of Social Networking

This article may not be speaking to everyone out there. But if you are an internet surfer you would have to be living under a rock not to know about social networking and the multiple avenues there are to finding former acquaintances, meeting new people, and having just a tiny connection someone famous.

There are a lot of great benefits to being in a social network. There are also some disadvantages. This list is by no means complete, but before I head out the door into the rat race that is I-75 south, I thought I would take a few minutes to get my brain working and share a few of my rants:

The Good:

  • Social Networking let’s you touch base with so many people you have lost track of in your life. Old high school friends, past co-workers, and even family members. For me, there were some special people in my life when I was in school. Over the years I thought about them, but the relationship had gotten so distant that I figured we would never communicate again. Then came Facebook. Now that friendship has been renewed and is probably closer, (at least from my perspective) even though we are 900 miles away from each other, than it was when I was in high school. Why? I finally matured enough to actually be able to communicate. (*It’s a guy thing.)
  • Social Networking allows you to keep up with your favorite music or movie stars, giving you a little star power. Not that long ago you were lucky to ever see someone famous out in public, or in a “real” situation. Now you can make contact on a daily basis. I have people in music and radio on my Twitter and Facebook page. There isn’t a day goes by I don’t hear from them.
  • Social Networking allows you to share your views – More on this later because it also fits into the other two categories
  • Social Networking allows you to be an intimate part of peoples lives when they need it most. I am constantly getting prayer request from friends. I love to pray for them and share their hurts. We could all use some prayer and I will be the first one in line if you’re giving them out.
  • Like your car or your home, your Social Networking site says who you are. You are defined by your messages and posts, and you have the ability to be an ambassador for Christ on a daily basis.

The Bad:

  • Social Networking gives you courage to speak your mind, even though you really shouldn’t. I can’t tell you how many times I have had an “uh oh” moment on Twitter and Facebook. Luckily I have limited myself to those two networks. (I stopped doing MySpace because of all the unsavory advertisements I kept getting.) I would suggest to all of you fellow networkers out there, stay off of the network when you are hurt or angry. What you say will come back to bite you eventually and I am guilty as charged.  Just because you have a thought doesn’t mean it’s a good one.
  • Social Networking allows people to find you that you don’t necessarily WANT to have back in your life. There are some of us who walked away from an unhealthy lifestyle and those that were smack dab in the middle of it. It can be extremely unhealthy to open the door back up to those thoughts and connections. (I will say it gives you a chance to minister though)
  • Social Networking can become addictive. Many people spend hours at a time sitting in front of their computer adding meaningless applications, sending friend requests, responding to other peoples comments, and playing online games. I have done it and have seen people who spend 8-10 hours a day on it easily into the wee hours of the night. It takes away from your rest, your family, your marriage, and your time.

The Ugly:

  • There are a lot of kids on Social Networking sites. When I first started with My Space my thought was it would help me stay in touch with the many young friends I had at church as well as my own kids.( I have always considered myself a pretty hip Dad) In doing so I found myself being the “Sargent At Arms” for many of my church family’s kids. Sure, the boys like to use colorful language because it makes them feel older. But the scariest part was how far the young girls will put themselves out there without a thought. Parents, I know your kids get tired of hearing you harp. But do yourselves a favor, make it a rule in your house that the kids keep their social networks open for your viewing. If you have a teenage girl and she has 200+ friends on her friend list, I promise she doesn’t know that many people. Sexual predators are real and misrepresent themselves on the internet all the time. We have got to teach our kids not to have “It will never happen to me” mentalities. This is a sick world and the internet is a major contributor to that sickness.
  • Keep politics to a minimum. If you want to keep the friends you have now, don’t discuss politics. You are going to find that a lot of people you love are going to abandon you when they find out your political views don’t match theirs. Can you have a friendly discussion about politics? Rarely. Political passion was the driving force behind creating this nation. It is also the driving force behind every war. (See the Good section…sharing your views)
  • Don’t replace “Drunk and Dialing” with “Smashed and Social”. Just go to bed people. I am not going to tell you not to have a drink. I am telling you that your courage (or stupidity) increases as you consume alcohol. I spent many years playing music in a bar atmosphere. The later it got, the braver the crowd. The same is true with networking. You will wake up the next morning, and there for everyone to see is something you don’t remember saying and can never take back. You will lose friends, hurt family, and possibly even lose your job because of it.

Final thoughts: At the end of the day it is up to each and every one of us to regulate how we use Social Networking. It is a great tool. But it is also a time consumer. If we let anything consume our time it should be God. Nothing can replace those quiet moments with him. Nothing can give you comfort and insight like finding that special bible passage, or praying and thanking God for all the blessings he has given us. Be responsible both in your human life and your spiritual life.

This article has given me a chance to really put some thought into how I spend my time. I hope it has done the same for you. Perhaps you have some additions to “The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly” list. Please add them in and I will share all the comments with a repost of this article in a few weeks. If you do not want me to share your name, simply tell me in your response  and I will keep that between us. I regulate all of the comments on this site.

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